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I’m a duck

if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck….chances are it’s a duck

had my appointment 2 weeks ago with my ADHD  Dr.

Got a refill for my ADHD medications.

talked about my anxiety and “asperger like” traits. told her I’m reading aspergirls. That my daughter and I are like cut from the same cloth.

asked her for her input.

she basically said,”if you are you are….there’s no “cure” really, just coping skills…and it sounds like you are doing a good job at learning about what works and what doesn’t.”

She is not big on medication for anxiety. half of me wants to do it without any, the other half of me can’t handle the crippling social anxiety I have, that causes me to recoil and stop taking to anyone for days/weeks.

A duck just IS a duck, it doesn’t need to know it’s a duck. Or that other people call them ducks cause they act like ducks.

pigeons are pigeons, and they act like pigeons.

but ducks and pigeons are both birds.

so, I’m a duck, who lives among pigeons.

there is no cure for being a duck. and she thinks I do a pretty good job compensating for being a duck…living among pigeons, people don’t really notice I am a duck.

So…basically I’m a duck. which is not too bad. it just is hard to be expected to act like a pigeon when I can’t.  I just am a duck trying to decoy myself as a pigeon. for short bursts of time, it’s ok, pigeons think I am one of them, but if I act like my duck self too often or for too long…pigeons look at me weird, noticing i’m not really a pigeon, but some weird bird. if I tell them I’m a duck…many are asshole pigeons and go OHHHHH, your  a DUCK, like it’s a bad word, or I am less of a bird, because I’m a duck not REALLY a pigeon.

grrrr. being a duck around asshole pigeons fucking sucks

mommy noodles

this is why i love my kid.

they can drive me nuts through the day fighting and whining, and making  ABSOLUTE mess of the house, having temper tantrums over sensory issues, being cranky from lack of sleep etc.

But today, she had a fairly decent day, though she was whiney and cranky from the heat….then after a lovelery swim in the pond we come home hungry and the girl makes her own supper wth some help… a can of alphabet noodles.

In the middle if eating she asks “can I borrow your DSi for a minute?” I say ya, but give it right back. She did, and I never looked until just a few minutes go to what she wanted to take a picture of… and this is what she borrowed it for!

Poke the Chicken

lol..I just realized that “poke the chicken” might sound like I’m saying to poke the chicken, but really the chicken’s name is Poke.

Babies Who Don’t Respond To Their Names Could Indicate Early Detection For Autism Or Other Developmental Disorders/Delays

Source:http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/04/070402162106.htm

ORiginally titled”

Babies Who Don’t Respond To Their Names May Be At Risk For Autism Or Other Disorders”

I don’t consider being BORN with a certain set of characteristics that can be labelled autistic or other developmental disorders, to be called “being at risk” for it later in life, because they can possibly detect these things earlier.

It is clearly a case of , they are seeing earlier signs on development that may indicate communication delays, and or development milestones being met later than “typical” .

I’ve seen signs in my daughter’s sprectrim idiosyncrancies since she was a baby, as early as 5 months old, when she preferred alone time, and her own sleep space, and would only snuggle or cuddle when SHE wanted, and would get outright flippy screaming if you stopped her activity without enough notice.

By 2 years old, “Raising your spirited child” was my parenting Bible, and the first indication to me, that my daughter was  not typical, and that as a parent I was not alone with a spirited child.

I knew in PREGNANCY with my son, he was a hyper child.

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ScienceDaily (Apr. 4, 2007) — Year-old babies who do not respond when their name is called may be more likely to be diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder or other developmental problem at age 2, making this simple test a potential early indicator for such conditions, according to a report in the April issue of Archives of Pediatrics & Adolescent Medicine, a theme issue on autism spectrum disorders.

Although as many as half of parents of children with autism report concerns about their child’s developmental progress before the first birthday, the disorder is usually not diagnosed until age 3 or 4, according to background information in the article. “Earlier identification of autism offers the possibility of early intervention, which holds promise for improving outcomes in children with autism,” the authors write. “This has motivated a growing body of research that aims to ascertain the earliest reliable indicators of autism.”

Aparna S. Nadig, Ph.D., of the M.I.N.D. Institute, University of California Davis, Sacramento, and colleagues assessed the tendency of infants to respond when their names are called, which is “one of the most consistently documented behaviors in infancy that distinguishes children later diagnosed with autism from those with typical development or developmental delays,” they write.

Infants whose older siblings had autism, and who were therefore at risk for autism, were compared with control infants who were not at high risk of developing the disorder. While each child sat at a table playing with a small toy, a researcher walked behind the child and called his or her name in a clear voice. If the child did not respond after 3 seconds, the name was called again up to twice. Fifty-five at-risk infants and 43 control infants completed this test at age 6 months, and 101 at-risk infants and 46 control infants were tested at age 12 months.

“At age 6 months, there was a non-significant trend for control infants to require a fewer number of calls to respond to name than infants at risk for autism,” the authors write. “At age 12 months, 100 percent of the infants in the control group ‘passed,’ responding on the first or second name call, while 86 percent in the at-risk group did.”

Forty-six at-risk infants and 25 control infants were followed up for two years; three-fourths of those who did not respond to their name at age 12 months were identified with developmental problems at age 2. A total of 89 percent of infants who did not have an autism spectrum disorder (including autism, Asperger’s syndrome and related conditions all defined by deficits in language and social skills) and 94 percent of infants without any developmental delays at two years responded to their name on the first two calls at one year. Of the children who were later diagnosed with autism, half failed the test at one year, and of those who were identified as having any type of developmental delay, 39 percent failed the test.

“Thus, failure to respond to name at the well-child one-year check-up may be a useful indicator of children who would benefit from a more thorough developmental assessment,” the authors write. “It will not, however, identify all children at risk for developmental problems.”

“Since this task is easy to administer and score and takes few resources, it could be incorporated into well-child pediatric visits at 12 months of age,” they conclude. “If a child fails to orient to name, particularly reliably over time, this child has a high likelihood of some type of developmental abnormality and should be referred for more frequent screening, comprehensive assessment and, if indicated, preventive early intervention.”

This research was funded by a grant from the National Institutes of Health.

COOL mom points

So yeah.. I’m watching Big Bang Theory with the hubby the other night and sheldon talks about spaghetti with hotdogs in it, and I think “OMFG no, people don’t really do that do they!?”

But given I know people who think a real nice spaghetti dinner is pasta boiled and thrown into a can of Tomato soup! GAG

So I did what any normal sane person would do, I googled it.

And when i searched the pictures results…which is how I decide what result page I go to first for every search I’m doing-this little concoction for kids came up when I looked for  Spaghetti with cut up hot dogs.

So I decided to call them spider dogs with just 4 pieces of noodle. I made them for a surprise for the kids for lunch yesterday, and then tonight when we got home from the girls swim glass, and needed supper fast, they again asked for spider dogs.

Easiest Cool mom points EVAR.

Love Notes

I let the kids write on the front of the dishwasher with white board dry erase markers.

This is the most recent note my 9 yo daughter left me :)

( i played with it in irfanview, because the actual picture was rather dark)

Apparently she doesn’t love me on friday and saturdays.. when I asked her about that joking aroung, she said that of course she did, but I already knew that, cause Fridays is Family fun night, and Saturdays I let her play with her friends :)