Comments on: So tired of the Stigma http://nurturedmother.ca/2010/04/so-tired-of-the-stigma/ Tue, 17 Jan 2012 03:31:10 +0000 hourly 1 By: Miss Lisa http://nurturedmother.ca/2010/04/so-tired-of-the-stigma/comment-page-1/#comment-1356 Miss Lisa Mon, 16 Aug 2010 17:13:22 +0000 http://nurturedmother.ca/?p=497661040#comment-1356 Great post! Someone put a link to this just now on a forum for ADD I'm on, so I'm just seeing it today. Great description, and I love the advice you gave to the mom regarding her 5 year old. I've done that a few times talking to a friend who is a middle school teacher, and a good and caring one, but she isn't ADD. Sometimes she'll describe kids she can't get through to, that aren't working up to their potential (oh yeah!), about to fail the class & that doesn't seem to sink in or motivate them or whatever, and it's like, "You know, that sounds so much like me...." "I also did (or didn't) do that, this is what I was (or wasn't) thinking, and maybe if you ask this question or do this instead." In my case I honestly never thought to ask for help or ask a question or go to the teacher after class. It honestly never occurred to me! I remember what it was like, and someone who hasn't won't always get it. I'm saving this article to show those times when someone asks me what exactly is ADD, why is it a problem, etc. You explain it so well, better than I could (well, I can explain it, but it will take me hours and hours to write and rewrite....). Great post! Someone put a link to this just now on a forum for ADD I’m on, so I’m just seeing it today. Great description, and I love the advice you gave to the mom regarding her 5 year old.

I’ve done that a few times talking to a friend who is a middle school teacher, and a good and caring one, but she isn’t ADD. Sometimes she’ll describe kids she can’t get through to, that aren’t working up to their potential (oh yeah!), about to fail the class & that doesn’t seem to sink in or motivate them or whatever, and it’s like, “You know, that sounds so much like me….”

“I also did (or didn’t) do that, this is what I was (or wasn’t) thinking, and maybe if you ask this question or do this instead.” In my case I honestly never thought to ask for help or ask a question or go to the teacher after class. It honestly never occurred to me! I remember what it was like, and someone who hasn’t won’t always get it.

I’m saving this article to show those times when someone asks me what exactly is ADD, why is it a problem, etc. You explain it so well, better than I could (well, I can explain it, but it will take me hours and hours to write and rewrite….).

]]> By: YMCA Stigmatizes ADHD Families. Acceptable To Stigmatize Children With Mental Health Conditions For Money? | Adult ADD Strengths http://nurturedmother.ca/2010/04/so-tired-of-the-stigma/comment-page-1/#comment-1247 YMCA Stigmatizes ADHD Families. Acceptable To Stigmatize Children With Mental Health Conditions For Money? | Adult ADD Strengths Sat, 24 Apr 2010 18:57:15 +0000 http://nurturedmother.ca/?p=497661040#comment-1247 [...] struck a chord on Twitter. Here’s a bit from her blog post on the YMCA Stigma ad The stigma of living with ADHD is pretty negative at times. The negative impact it has on our day [...] [...] struck a chord on Twitter. Here’s a bit from her blog post on the YMCA Stigma ad The stigma of living with ADHD is pretty negative at times. The negative impact it has on our day [...]

]]> By: Bernard von Schulmann http://nurturedmother.ca/2010/04/so-tired-of-the-stigma/comment-page-1/#comment-1241 Bernard von Schulmann Wed, 21 Apr 2010 16:35:57 +0000 http://nurturedmother.ca/?p=497661040#comment-1241 I found your blog via Peter Quily. I can relate to all of what you said there. Yesterday was one of those days, I had my ritalin in my, had coffee, but around 4 pm it all went to shit. I could not write anything. I could not empty the effing dishwasher, I could not pick my son's boot at my feet. I could not stand silence so a walk was out. I could not stand to be in my thoughts. It was one of those moments when banging your head on the wall is a wonderful activity - my wife finally gets it when I do things like that. Yeah, there are times when ADHD is great, give me a wild and crazy crisis and I can relax as everything slows down for me. I can come up with more innovative solutions and ideas in 30 minutes than most people can in months, getting anything ever done is something else. I have two boys with ADHD and my ex wife has it as well. My third son and wife just have to learn how to cope with us. twitter - BC_Iconoclast I found your blog via Peter Quily. I can relate to all of what you said there.

Yesterday was one of those days, I had my ritalin in my, had coffee, but around 4 pm it all went to shit. I could not write anything. I could not empty the effing dishwasher, I could not pick my son’s boot at my feet. I could not stand silence so a walk was out. I could not stand to be in my thoughts.

It was one of those moments when banging your head on the wall is a wonderful activity – my wife finally gets it when I do things like that.

Yeah, there are times when ADHD is great, give me a wild and crazy crisis and I can relax as everything slows down for me. I can come up with more innovative solutions and ideas in 30 minutes than most people can in months, getting anything ever done is something else.

I have two boys with ADHD and my ex wife has it as well. My third son and wife just have to learn how to cope with us.

twitter – BC_Iconoclast

]]> By: SuperADDMom http://nurturedmother.ca/2010/04/so-tired-of-the-stigma/comment-page-1/#comment-1240 SuperADDMom Wed, 21 Apr 2010 05:48:32 +0000 http://nurturedmother.ca/?p=497661040#comment-1240 Thank you for reading :) If there is one thing I can share about being a child with ADHD that I remember clearly, is if he does something and you ask him why he did it and he answers "I dunno" he's likely telling the truth. He probably doesn't even clearly remember doing it. He likely did it in a "trance" while doing other things. I remember doing things like chewing on the top of the tv remote unaware I was doing it, and then getting in BIG trouble for it. What's your twitter name I'll follow you back it is frustrating as hell, but the best thing to do, is try to teach him to remain mindful of what he is doing all the time. Thank you for reading :)

If there is one thing I can share about being a child with ADHD that I remember clearly, is if he does something and you ask him why he did it and he answers “I dunno” he’s likely telling the truth. He probably doesn’t even clearly remember doing it. He likely did it in a “trance” while doing other things. I remember doing things like chewing on the top of the tv remote unaware I was doing it, and then getting in BIG trouble for it.

What’s your twitter name I’ll follow you back

it is frustrating as hell, but the best thing to do, is try to teach him to remain mindful of what he is doing all the time.

]]> By: ann-marie http://nurturedmother.ca/2010/04/so-tired-of-the-stigma/comment-page-1/#comment-1238 ann-marie Tue, 20 Apr 2010 21:46:23 +0000 http://nurturedmother.ca/?p=497661040#comment-1238 awesome post. I found you on twitter today and had to come over and look at your blog. My son (just turned 5) was diagnosed with ADHD in the fall and is currently taking Ritalin (it's helped him a lot), still struggling in school and with lack of support, lack of correct information and lack of understanding in the general world. Thank you for sharing your perspective as an Adult with ADHD--I sometimes wonder what my son is thinking or feeling (He doesn't communicate deeply). :) awesome post. I found you on twitter today and had to come over and look at your blog.
My son (just turned 5) was diagnosed with ADHD in the fall and is currently taking Ritalin (it’s helped him a lot), still struggling in school and with lack of support, lack of correct information and lack of understanding in the general world.
Thank you for sharing your perspective as an Adult with ADHD–I sometimes wonder what my son is thinking or feeling (He doesn’t communicate deeply).

:)

]]> By: Jack Holt http://nurturedmother.ca/2010/04/so-tired-of-the-stigma/comment-page-1/#comment-1236 Jack Holt Tue, 20 Apr 2010 04:44:32 +0000 http://nurturedmother.ca/?p=497661040#comment-1236 Thank you for writing this. Though I knew much of it already, it was helpful to be reminded. I'm struggling right now without ADD meds (for financial reasons) though I can get the antidepressants I need through a state program (I'm in Arizona, USA.) I've been feeling so broken lately, since I can barely get anything done, and i've been out of work for quite a while. It's so good to be reminded that mine is not a moral failing, but a simple neurological one, and once I can get properly medicated again, perhaps I can get on with a somewhat normal life. Thank you for writing this. Though I knew much of it already, it was helpful to be reminded. I’m struggling right now without ADD meds (for financial reasons) though I can get the antidepressants I need through a state program (I’m in Arizona, USA.) I’ve been feeling so broken lately, since I can barely get anything done, and i’ve been out of work for quite a while. It’s so good to be reminded that mine is not a moral failing, but a simple neurological one, and once I can get properly medicated again, perhaps I can get on with a somewhat normal life.

]]> By: uberVU - social comments http://nurturedmother.ca/2010/04/so-tired-of-the-stigma/comment-page-1/#comment-1235 uberVU - social comments Tue, 20 Apr 2010 03:28:26 +0000 http://nurturedmother.ca/?p=497661040#comment-1235 <strong>Social comments and analytics for this post...</strong> This post was mentioned on Twitter by SuperADDMom: my blog response to the #YMCA #ADHD Advertisement. ( includes picture of the ad) http://nurturedmother.ca/2010/04/so-tired-of-the-stigma/... Social comments and analytics for this post…

This post was mentioned on Twitter by SuperADDMom: my blog response to the #YMCA #ADHD Advertisement. ( includes picture of the ad) http://nurturedmother.ca/2010/04/so-tired-of-the-stigma/...

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